It’s a question I ask all my clients, and often, the answer revolves around communication.
Seemingly small things, like housework, become battlegrounds. Perhaps arguments escalate quickly and end with days of silence, or worse, unresolved tension that seems to spiral back to the same conflicts over and over. You might feel like you can’t do anything right, like your efforts to connect only lead to defensiveness, shutdowns, or more hurt feelings. It seems like you’re just not on the same team.
The love you once felt seems buried under the demands of parenting, work, and the mental load. Sometimes you might even wonder, “Is this the person I married? How did we get here?”
These misunderstandings and hurts can leave you feeling lonely, sometimes feeling like you can talk to your friends but not your partner. Or it’s easier to agree than try and argue.
Maybe you’ve tried to offer input into parenting but feel like you’re on the bench, watching from the sidelines.
Or you’ve tried to rekindle some affection or physical intimacy but feel rejected when your partner says they’re feeling ‘touched out’. Maybe connection with your partner feels like just another item on the ‘to do’ list. A sense that you’ve become housemates, not lovers.
Whatever “it” is, it feels like your partner just doesn’t get “it”. They don’t ‘get you’.
For some, the pain runs even deeper. Maybe you’re in the midst of a crisis—a betrayal that has left you questioning whether your relationship can survive. It can feel like the ground has been ripped out from under you, leaving you unsure if you should stay or go, or how to even begin to heal.
At Brisbane Couples Counselling, you are not alone. I know how to work with the pain and complexity of these struggles. With a Masters in Counselling and Level 3 training in the Gottman Method, I’m here to help guide you toward clarity and reconnection. Together, we’ll work to rebuild trust, improve communication, and rediscover the happiness you once had.
A relationship can be like renovating a house – it takes time, effort and occasional updates. Sometimes you need to tear down parts of the old to make room for something better.
Let’s work together to create a relationship where both of you feel seen, heard, and valued.
Call now to book your appointment on 3876 2100 or email info@brisbanecouplescounselling.com
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