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This weekend I had the joy of MC-ing a wedding So much love, so many meaningful moments. At one point someone asked me if I’d ever thought about being a celebrant. I said yes, because I love love, I love helping people say what they really mean, and I love creating moments that actually land. Then I laughed and said I wasn’t quite sure how that would work alongside being a couples therapist… boundaries and all that. Someone joked, “Yeah… congrats on your wedding! Here’s my

One of the questions I sometimes get from couples starting Gottman Method therapy is: “Why do we each need to have an individual session?” It’s a great question and the answer speaks to the heart of what makes couples therapy so unique and effective. Couples Therapy Is VERY different to individual therapy When you're in the room with your partner, it’s not just you in the session, it's both of your histories, emotions, perspectives, beliefs, attachment styles, communication

I’m in a footy tipping comp with my family at the moment — currently second on the ladder, thank you very much! While I’d love to claim it’s my expert knowledge, it’s really an absolute fluke. But it got me thinking about coaching, training, and something clicked for me about what couples therapy actually is — and what it has in common with good coaching. Okay... hear me out... Let’s be honest — when you hear the word “therapy,” it probably doesn’t sound like something that a

Have you ever felt stuck in your relationship, unsure whether to stay together or separate? If so, you're not alone. Many couples face this dilemma, especially those in their 30s and 40s, overwhelmed by emotional turmoil and uncertainty. This is where discernment therapy comes in. It provides a structured way for couples to reflect on their feelings and make informed choices about their future. Discernment therapy is not just about fixing problems; it's about understanding yo

Sharing the mental load in a relationship can feel like an uphill battle. Maybe you’ve tried practical tools like a shared calendar, a chore list, or even popular toolkits like Eve Rodsky’s Fair Play book and card system. Yet, despite your best efforts, it seems like nothing is working. Why? Often, it’s not just about the tasks—it’s about understanding and empathising with your partner’s experience. The mental load refers to the invisible labor of managing household tasks, sc

If you’ve ever tried to talk to your partner about an issue, only to have them get defensive, you know how frustrating it can be. But why does this happen? According to Drs. John and Julie Schwartz Gottman, defensiveness is one of the key “Four Horsemen” of relationship breakdowns, and it often appears when someone feels criticised or attacked. In their research, they define defensiveness as an attempt to protect oneself by denying responsibility or counterattacking. Essentia