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I’ve been wanting to write this blog for a while, as I think it’s important to convey what actually happens when you walk through my door for the first time. I’ve been on the other side of the therapy couch myself, so I know how nerve-wracking it can be. Where do you even start? What’s relevant to share? Are you going to tell us to break up? Let me clear up some things. I Won’t Tell You What to Do No, I will not tell you to break up. I don’t believe that’s my role, my place,

This weekend I had the joy of MC-ing a wedding   So much love, so many meaningful moments. At one point someone asked me if I’d ever thought about being a celebrant. I said yes, because I love love, I love helping people say what they really mean, and I love creating moments that actually land. Then I laughed and said I wasn’t quite sure how that would work alongside being a couples therapist… boundaries and all that. Someone joked, “Yeah… congrats on your wedding! Here’s my

A couple of years ago, I was out rollerblading with a friend (hello, abandoned COVID hobbies!) and she told me about someone close to her who was going through a breakup . Safety first ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ She’d gone to her GP for support, but when she filled out the mental health questionnaire, she didn’t meet the criteria for clinical depression or anxiety. It meant she couldn’t access a rebate/mental health care rebate for psychology sessions. <Confusion has entered the chat> Now, th

This photo is a moment from many years ago, me in my little apartment, starting to feel safe, secure, and content as a single person again. After a breakup in my late 20s that felt like a divorce, I remember how disorienting it was. People often said things like, "This just happens in your 20s" or "You'll find the right person one day." And while both can be true, what I really needed in that moment wasn't a silver lining, it was someone who could simply sit with me in my gri

You didn’t expect to be googling, “How to get over a breakup.” And yet, here you are. Scrolling. Crying. Replaying conversations in your head. Everyone saying, “It will just take time.” One minute you’re fine. The next, you’re falling apart at Coles. You don’t feel like yourself and you don’t know when, or if, you will again. To make things worse, you’re drowning in friend’s engagement and pregnancy announcement posts. This is what no one really gets about break ups: That in

One of the questions I sometimes get from couples starting Gottman Method therapy is: “Why do we each need to have an individual session?”  It’s a great question and the answer speaks to the heart of what makes couples therapy so unique and effective. Couples Therapy Is VERY different to individual therapy When you're in the room with your partner, it’s not just you  in the session, it's both of your histories, emotions, perspectives, beliefs, attachment styles, communication