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Nobody tells you that at some point in a serious relationship, you’re going to have feelings about an Instagram follow. Maybe it’s your partner still following an ex. Maybe it’s a like on a photo that felt a little too personal. Maybe it’s the fact that your partner keeps their phone face down and you can’t quite articulate why that bothers you, but it does. Welcome to one of the most genuinely new relationship territories of our generation, the digital boundaries conversatio

Moving in together is one of the most exciting things you’ll do as a couple. It’s also one of the most underestimated. Not because living together is necessarily hard. But because most couples spend months talking about the apartment and almost no time talking about what life in it actually looks like. And then they’re six weeks in, mildly furious about dishes, and wondering why the person they love is suddenly annoying. Here’s the thing: the dishes aren’t the problem. The di

Some cute dogs I know. (They are mine) You’ve been talking about it for months. Maybe one of you has been sending the other reels of golden retrievers and cavoodles at 11pm. Maybe you’ve even done a sneaky scroll through rescue pages together on the couch. Getting a dog as a couple feels exciting, and maybe even like the logical next step. But before you put down a deposit, can I give you the voice of someone who has been in the room with hundreds of couples? Getting a dog t

I’ve been wanting to write this blog for a while, as I think it’s important to convey what actually happens when you walk through my door for the first time. I’ve been on the other side of the therapy couch myself, so I know how nerve-wracking it can be. Where do you even start? What’s relevant to share? Are you going to tell us to break up? Let me clear up some things. I Won’t Tell You What to Do No, I will not tell you to break up. I don’t believe that’s my role, my place,

This weekend I had the joy of MC-ing a wedding   So much love, so many meaningful moments. At one point someone asked me if I’d ever thought about being a celebrant. I said yes, because I love love, I love helping people say what they really mean, and I love creating moments that actually land. Then I laughed and said I wasn’t quite sure how that would work alongside being a couples therapist… boundaries and all that. Someone joked, “Yeah… congrats on your wedding! Here’s my

A couple of years ago, I was out rollerblading with a friend (hello, abandoned COVID hobbies!) and she told me about someone close to her who was going through a breakup . Safety first ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ She’d gone to her GP for support, but when she filled out the mental health questionnaire, she didn’t meet the criteria for clinical depression or anxiety. It meant she couldn’t access a rebate/mental health care rebate for psychology sessions. <Confusion has entered the chat> Now, th